At great wolf lodge (in Virginia) at the Dunkin’ Donuts do you have to pay with cash money instead of swiping the card? Or do you have to give the staff the money to put on the card to use it?

No you can use your card

As of June 2019, you can even use the wristbands you get when you check in. They are linked to your room and they will charge the credit card in the account at the end of your stay. However, DD is slow, and you should expect 30-45 minutes wait in line if they're busy.

I too live in Virginia and at dunk in donut they take bote

You can pay with cash

Either