How do I get a domestic violence class to lift a no contact order ? Discretely?

You should be contacting YWCA instead of YMCA

you have to go in front of the judge with said person and the person has to drop it in court or ask for it to be removed

Im not sure if something like that can be done discreetly as the person whom is not supposed to be contacted has to be notified. Here is a link for a how to: https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.wikihow.com/Get-a-No-Contact-Order-Dropped%3famp=1