I believe my husband has the beginning signs of demetia should I take him to the clinic first? I don't know how to talk to the Dr. without him being with me to discuss it.

I understand how hard it would be to bring up that conversation in front of him. Have U spoken in private with him about it? There are tests that will DX it if he has it. Then he would have to come to terms about it. I wish you luck and best wishes.

Call his primary care team at the VA hospital and they will direct you on what to do. The VA is big on including the spouse in on the care plan of the Veteran.