Yes, someone underage can be on the property and can take tours. They can not participate in the taints or dip a bottle in the gift shop. You can mail bottles of alcohol, though I'm not sure that they will ship directly from the distillery, you may need to go to a post office.
You may want to ask about mailing. We were there last year was told you can not mail, so we had to bring bottles with us.
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