Not sure, but if you get in touch with one of the Veteran Service Organizations (i.e. DAV) or maybe the Volunteers Services at the VA hospital they might be able to get a more definite answer for you. Hope your relative is doing ok.
Call the information line. Because of hippa laws you probably wont be able to get confirmation that a letter has gone through after you mail it but they might be able to deliver it.
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