New River Counseling

Oftentimes, when one partner refuses to do couples counseling, it is not always because they don’t want the marriage or relationship to work. Sometimes, the partner is reluctant because they fear the process. Something new and unknown can be scary. They can be hesitant to talk honestly about their true feelings, or fear that they will be judged. When a partner starts couples therapy because they are being forced (or feel like they are being forced) you may find couples therapy to take longer or to not be as effective. Of course, sometimes this can be turned around during the process of therapy as the partner learns to trust the process, gets a better understanding of what therapy is like, and starts to lower some of their protections. If your partner adamantly refuses couples therapy it is highly recommended for you to seek out individual therapy so you can at least get help for yourself or get more clear with your decision making regarding the marriage or relationship.

That really depends on each couple’s unique situation. In general, if both partners are willing to change, take responsibility for their actions, and are ready to be open with their feelings, they may expect to see good results faster. It also helps when couples are willing to see each other as team members who have good intentions rather than opponents.

Historically, couples therapy was found to be only somewhat effective, as it focused primarily on communication skills. These skills are great, however, evidence has found that couples need to address deeper issues that prevent them from having secure connection in the relationship. According to the American Psychological Association modern day couples therapy can be up to 75% effective when using an Emotionally Focused Therapy model. This EFT model is focused on creating a more secure attachment in couples.

Online counseling is available using video chat, so you can work towards emotional well being from anywhere in Florida. All you need is a reliable internet connection and a quiet, private space for the sessions. I use a HIPAA compliant video platform that is secure and protects your privacy. Schedule a consult call for more information.

- Individual and Couples Counseling: $125-150 for a 60-minute session. Reduced fees are available on a sliding fee scale, on a case by case basis. - Group Session: $50 per weekly session. - Online Coaching: Monthly packages available. Schedule a call to discuss a plan that works for you.

Counseling is a partnership. Both you and your therapist work collaboratively on your goals. Don’t expect your therapist to always have the answers or to tell you what to do. You will find the solution together. Therapy will not always feel pleasant. Painful memories, frustrations, or feelings might surface. This is a normal part of therapy and your therapist will guide you through this process. Be sure to communicate with your therapist about how you are feeling. Share what you are feeling. You will get the most out of counseling if you are open and honest with your therapist about your feelings. Fear of judgment and shame are common roadblocks to letting go of problems. Your counselor will help you feel safe to work through these feelings.