I've been here twice, one where people were doing sexy things and one where it was just like any other social event. What gives?

The weight of expectations must be carried by you and you alone.

Play is always allowed, but it doesn't always happen there. I'm not sure what you mean by what gives. If you look at the calendar and read what the event actually is that evening, you may be better able to set your expectations. Personally I've never found Sanctuary a very comfortable place to play anyway. It's a great place to meet people though.

You are always welcome to play as far as I know, but there aren't always people to watch, that can't be controlled. Check the calendar online before you go

Thanks for the info mysterious stranger, I'll have to check and see.